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Blending Families with Older Children: Finding Success Together

By Leanne Townsend | - January 8, 2026

Leanne Townsend is a Senior Divorce Lawyer at Benmor Family Law Group with over 25 years of courtroom experience and expertise in family law, divorce, and domestic violence. She holds degrees from the University of Toronto and the University of Western Ontario and has served in prominent roles, including 16 years as an Assistant Crown Attorney and as the founder of Townsend Family Law. A skilled communicator, negotiator, and litigator, Leanne is committed to empowering her clients and achieving optimal outcomes both inside and outside the courtroom. A sought-after coach, speaker, and media contributor, she hosts the popular "Divorcing Well" and "Divorce Explained" podcasts and recently joined Fanshawe College as a part-time professor. Beyond her legal career, she is passionate about fitness, travel, and lifelong learning and takes pride in her two children.

Blending families is never simple. When children are young, parents often worry about routines, discipline, and day-to-day logistics. But when children are older—teenagers or young adults—the challenges can look different. Independence, established family traditions, and strong bonds with each parent can sometimes make integration feel daunting.

That’s why I’m especially grateful for the experience I just had on a family vacation to Punta Cana. For the first time, my partner and I brought our children together for a shared trip. We weren’t sure how it would go—after all, travel can amplify stress and highlight differences. But instead, what we found was connection, laughter, and a sense of ease that made the vacation so memorable.

What made it work? A few things stood out:

  • Respecting independence – Older children don’t always want to be joined at the hip, and that’s okay. Giving everyone space allowed them to relax and connect naturally.
  • Creating shared experiences – Zip lining, meals together, and beach time gave us common ground and moments to bond.
  • Keeping expectations realistic – We didn’t force closeness; we let relationships grow at their own pace.

For families considering blending with older children, know this: success doesn’t happen overnight, but it can happen. It requires patience, open-mindedness, and a willingness to celebrate small wins along the way. Sometimes, it takes a trip outside of the usual routine to remind us that families are built on shared experiences and the decision to grow together.

Our Punta Cana trip was more than just a vacation—it was a milestone in building something lasting as a blended family. And for me, that’s the true measure of success.

Editorial note: This article was first published on LinkedIn in September 2025 and is republished here for reference.

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